With the holiday season in full effect, many divorced and separated parents are experiencing stress and difficulties with co-parenting. The first holiday season after divorce is one of the greatest challenges newly divorced parents face.
Remember, the holidays are a time to come together as a family and be thankful for everything you have, especially your children. Put your children first and always do what’s best for them. Here are some helpful tips on how to make this holiday season the best yet:
Share the Joy (& the Kids!)
Once you have children, the holidays cease to be about you—they’re all about the children. This is a time to make your children feel special and loved. The more people who love your children, the better!
Start new traditions!
Don’t allow yourself to think about how “different” the holidays will be this year, focus on something positive—you have a brand-new life, so create brand-new traditions for your children! Get creative and involve your children in planning new things. When you have something to look forward to, you will find yourself feeling happy and excited about the future! This isn’t the time to reminisce on the ghosts of holidays past—it’s time to begin making fresh, new memories!
Put your differences aside.
Your children love you and your ex-spouse more than anything in the world! You may be divorced or separated, but you’re still family. Never put down the other parent in front of your children. Instead, always reassure them that their mom/dad loves them. Do it for the kids!
Be kind, reasonable, and flexible!
Working together is one of the best presents you could give your children! Follow the schedule (if you have one) but allow a little leeway, if needed. Plans CAN be altered. Always remember—your children can feel your frustrations and if you’re frustrated, it will affect your kids. Don’t let anything get in the way of your happiness this holiday season and don’t let anything ruin the day for your children. Go with the flow—it’ll save you from a lot of grief and frustration!
Make a New Year’s resolution to leave the past behind.
Don’t let your thoughts of yesterday ruin the memories you are making today. Leave it ALL behind—the heartbreak, the tears, the fight, and the court dates. It’s time for a new year and a new you. Think of the divorce or separation as a new beginning and embrace the spirit of the season.
Follow these tips to make the holiday season stress-free for you and your family. If you begin to feel overwhelmed, take a deep breath and take a minute to relax. Then, move forward and enjoy these precious moments with your beautiful children while you can.
Do you have some tips to add? If so, comment below and let us know how you handled the holidays after divorce.
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